It is with our deepest regret we accept the resignation of Allison Woolbert as co-host. We will continue to support The Trans Violence Tracking Project and the good works they do. Allison’s advocacy for the trans community has been invaluable. Both for the community itself and our show. We will continue our advocacy for the trans community as allies.
The Last Tears Shed: No More Martyrs Blues Pt. IV (By Walter Beck)
For Leelah Alcorn 1997-2014
Yet another young sister gone too soon In a flash of desperation. Another young sister gone too soon Before her life even began. Another young sister gone too soon Nailed to the cross of Christian love.
Her last words to us Were to fight on Don’t let me die in vain.
We’re polishing up our marching boots, sister. We’re dusting off our picket signs, sister. We’re sharpening up our pens and swords, sister. We’re ready to fight on;
Fighting to finally end it all, All the blood spilled and minds wrecked, Fighting to end the electric wires And false promises of conversion. You were never broken, sister; It’s this world that needed fixing, Not you.
Oh sister Unconditional love Should have kept you here amongst us. But we know Unconditional love Will resurrect you
He tells her that the Earth is flat -
He knows the facts, and that is that.
In altercations fierce and long
She tries her best to prove him wrong.
Be he has learned to argue well.
He calls her arguments unsound
And often asks her not to yell.
She cannot win. He stands his ground.
THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR CONTINUED SUPPORT! IT’S BEEN A FANTASTIC YEAR FOR THE BISEXUAL COMMUNITY AND FOR US. WE ARE LOOKING FORWARD TO WHAT 2015 WILL BRING AND CAN’T WAIT TO SEE WHAT NEW PROGRESS WILL BE MADE!
I am taking a much-needed break over the holidays. We have been at it pretty hard. I had wanted to do a show on surviving the holidays but will collect interesting links instead. We will resume after January 5th with a show favorite returning! Here is#bicelebheroCrystal Bowersoxand her bi coming out song… http://youtu.be/LkcsTX9FtBU
For many of us the holidays are fraught with pain and loneliness. Those who are out are often shunned and ridiculed at this time by their loved ones. Those who cannot be out often have to endure quite bigoted comments and have to struggle to rise above them.
We encourage everyone for their own emotional well-being to be out. But for some this is not a safe thing to do at this time. So we encourage emotional, physical and financial safety first.
Those who are out and separated from their families, homeless, lonely, know you are loved. Those who can’t be out and are dealing with guilt because of that, you are loved just as much. You may feel less then heroic. Know that by the simple fact you are a survivor you are.
Take comfort in the knowledge you are free of the box. And take pity for those who hurt you because they are so deeply trapped in it.
A friend sent me this. My heart breaks for them.
“God, I hate my family sometimes… Here I am fighting off my depression all fucking day, then as soon as I get home, they make me sit with them and “hang out.” As the conversation casually drifted into a transphobic hate speech.
And apparently they have no idea that their son is a closet transgender who has wanted to be a girl his entire life (or at least since he was old enough to understand gender differences).
I can’t talk to them about me being asexual, atheist, or transgender until I’m out from their house. Or about the fact that I need regular therapy and antidepressants just to keep myself sane in this family. If they know about that stuff they’ll fuck up my life.
It’s sad. I can be so active for the community away from them, but I can’t even come out myself for anything about who I am because I’m trapped.
All of this bullshit just makes me want to give up. But I’ve been fighting that for years. At least with the antidepressants I can keep fighting for my sanity.
I had to take a 45 minute nap in my car after class today because I just couldn’t handle much more.”
END OF QUOTE
(posted with their permission)
Below are some resources that may help you survive these days. We encourage you to join Facebook groups and seek local support. When your family fails you, build your own supportive family.
Are you alone this Christmas or stuck with an unaccepting or bigoted family? Do your family mean well but you just desperately need some time away? We’ve set up a chat on Bitopiafor you this Christmas so head on over and say hi.